Catsitter (thanks Kel!) have emergency numbers? Check
Hometown goodies for hubby's parents and boss? Check
Survival kit for 24 hours of travel time? Check
In about three hours, I board a plane to take my first trip abroad. Because I know you're thinking it, I'll make the joke for you: yes, I'll be a broad abroad. Hell, I'll be a broad broad abroad!
My cats started to get antsy 30 minutes ago, when the suitcases hit the couch. Luckily, they like their catsitter.
I'm...pretty damned excited. Bill's parents sound like wonderful people, and I'm anxious to meet them. We'll all be on a beautiful coast, and Bill and I have lots of sightseeing planned.
Look out Queensland! Lock up your, um, well just lock up.
THIS ENTRY CONTAINS SPOILERS
It isn't really a review, but a funny anecdote. If you don't plan on seeing the movie (which wasn't bad, and Helen Mirren did a bang-up job as Ayn) some time soon, read on...
Many moons ago, in my quest to understand my own and others' psyches, I bought a book by the "father of self-esteem", a psychologist named Nathaniel Branden. It's still on my shelf. I haven't gone all the way through it, because frankly it's a little dry. Interesting, but pedantic.
So...I'm watching this movie and one of the main characters is a man who fell in love with Ayn Rand. He and Ayn got official permission from their pissed off spouses to have an affair within specified parameters. Because they were intellectual equals, Ayn justified this under some pretense of seeking an ideal, or whatever. He boffed her brains out through the end of the "Atlas Shrugged" project.
Then, he starts another affair with a third woman who was not his intellectual equal. This being a cardinal sin for an objectivist, I guess. To top things off, when his wife finds someone she's interested in, and in honesty asks for consent, he refuses on the basis that her fella is not her intellectual equal--this while he's fucking a halfwit.
Finally, Ayn finds out (from his wife, who is also close to Ayn), slaps the shit out of him and disowns him.
I looked up his institute after the movie, and was astonished to find some of his ideas...familiar. What a giggle. Now I have to finish that book.
My distant husband returned to his flat after work to discover he had a housemate:
He didn't really want to name a wild animal, but when nudged, he did admit he'd considered calling her Priscilla Python. Basically harmless and sweet natured, Pris let him get up close:
Bill kindly took the cap off the fan over the stove and propped a broom up so his new friend would have a way to the attic, where she could chase all the mice she liked. She apparently took advantage of the offer, and he hasn't seen her since.
Too bad, as he obviously needs a little help with the dishes.
After months of planning and designing, Portlandweb is finally live. It's a little light on content at the moment, but that will quickly be remedied as we add contributors.
This is something I've wanted to do for a very long time, and thanks primarily to Jenn and her organization of the Portland Blogger Group, it's become a reality. I think it will evolve into a great resource.
Recently on Mefi, Sudama posted a thread linked to a list of ideas on how men can be part of the solution to sexism.
Unfortunately, the list looks like it was a brainstorming session from a large meeting of activists. That means many of the ideas are half-baked or unclearly stated, or are specific to the activist community. For those unfamiliar with brainstorming--it's where participants throw out ideas regardless of merit; the ideas are not judged, they just go up on the board. Judging and weeding out is the next stage, and this list never made it.
So, for my own edification, I've taken that next step myself. Ideally this would be done in a discussion group, but hey, I'm the only one sitting in my livingroom at the moment. Below is the entire list with my comments under each one. After that, I'll post my interpretation of the list. Keepers are in bold. I may even add a thing or two. This is gonna be a long one, so you may want to print it out.
Okay, so my version of the finished list:
- Understand sexual objectification, then avoid it.
- Think about your concept of "women's work" and get rid of it. In fact, do some.
- Take reproductive responsibility.
- Back up women when they're being attacked.
- Take sexism on as your struggle.
- Don't act as if you can understand our oppression.
- Take action against sexism in your own communities.
- Remember that equality is the standard to judge by, but it is not the current reality.
- Don't trivialize women's issues.
- "Wife" is only part of an identity. Treat women as individuals, not adjuncts to their partners.
- All women deserve respect, not just the ones who don't wear dresses.
- Fight sexual violence in your community.
- Realize that women don't hate men.
- Develop a non-sexual friendship with a woman. We don't bite.
- Take an equal role in the raising of children.
- Don't use your gender role socialization as an excuse, even with other men.
- Study the history of sexism so you can see how deeply its roots run in our society.
- Talk to the face, please.
- Don't focus on gender in professions: she's a doctor, not a "female doctor".
- Don't make excuses for your sexism, deal with it.
- Understand that we can't wait for men to be comfortable with feminism before we move ahead.
- Realize that men are still the oppressors; it's your job to stop it, not just understand it.
- Realize that women don't always feel comfortable or empowered enough to stand up for themselves.
- Stand up to each other.
- Be mindful of the language you use (i.e., girls, clever girl, those women)
- Listen to us.
- Give equal consideration to our wants and needs.
- Fat is a feminist issue. Find out why. There's a whole book you can read.
- What women do without men is as important as what men do without women. Respect our projects and interests.
- We're stronger than you think, but will gladly take help if we need it.
- Disagreement among women does not invalidate the entire women's movement.
- Realize that we do care about your gender issues, but it's just not comparable to sexism .
AHHHH! What's happened to my dearest Jerwin? I was going to write him, but I realized all the addresses I have go through his domain.
This morning I received the following email:
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The problem? The address that received the spam is not the address I use with PayPal. I logged into my account and there were no notices of any sort. Also, check out the @ussr.to in the url.
I forwarded my spam to PayPal. Don't fall for this one.